The core principle of attachment theory is that how we interact with our primary caregivers in early childhood affects our adult relationships. In other words, our attachment style sets the ground rules for how we connect with other people.1 Based on the interactions with her primary caregivers, a child can develop either a secure or …
Smartness or intelligence can be defined in several ways. I won’t bore you with all the definitions. No matter how you slice and dice it, smartness boils down to problem-solving. You’re smart in my book if you’re good at solving problems, especially complex ones. What determines how well we’re able to solve a problem? One …
People with commitment issues find it hard to commit to something long-term. When we hear the term ‘commitment issues’, we often hear it in the context of romantic relationships. But people can also experience commitment issues in their jobs, business ventures, careers, goals, and friends. This article will discuss the common causes of commitment issues, …
The word ‘cult’ comes from the Latin cultus, meaning care, cultivation, culture, or worship. A cult has a culture of its own, with a cult leader, usually a male, and followers. A cult leader and his followers are bound together by shared beliefs, practices, and rituals that are considered deviant by a society’s mainstream belief …
Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) is characterized by a pattern of hyper-emotional and dramatic behaviors aimed at getting attention. People with HPD or histrionics love drama and being the center of everyone’s attention. The word ‘histrionic’ is derived from Latin ‘histrio’, meaning ‘actor’. Histrionics like attention so much that they’re likely to become actors and performers. …
I was part of the core team that organized a fest in our college. We had regular meetings to keep us updated on the progress. During this one meeting, when we were having lunch, the team leader blurted out, “He’s so quiet. He doesn’t speak much”, talking about me. I remember how I felt. It …
What does it even mean to have no personality?How can a person have no personality? Personality is the sum total of your genetics and life experiences. It includes everything about you- from your looks to your values. Thus, everyone has a personality. There isn’t a single person on earth you can say nothing about. If …
Getting your energy drained by emotionally draining people is one of the worst experiences in life. Aptly called emotional vampires, emotionally draining people exhaust you. You feel you have no energy left after interacting with these tiring people. Because they drain your energy so much, you don’t feel like spending time with them. In contrast, …
Toxic behavior is any behavior that causes harm to others. Often, a toxic person cannot see their own toxicity because they can’t objectively observe their own behavior. Before accusing someone of being toxic, it’s always a good idea to verify their toxicity from other observers. In this article, I’ll list out the signs of toxic …
When you enter a new relationship, it’s natural to desire to be close to your partner. You’re in the ‘getting to know each other’ phase. The closer you are to each other, the better you get to know each other. Eventually, when both partners are satisfied with each other, things settle down a bit. You …