How to find yourself when you are lost

your values

“The biggest danger, that of losing oneself, can pass off in the world as quietly as if it were nothing; every other loss, an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc. is bound to be noticed.” – Soren Kierkegaard Identity is a complex topic. It has so many layers to it. If I ask …

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How to heal anxious attachment: A brief guide

anxiously attached woman

Our interactions with primary caregivers form our attachment styles in early childhood. Our attachment style, or how we attach ourselves to our parents, also tends to be how we attach to our romantic partners. There are four attachment styles: Anxious attachment style or Anxious Preoccupied (AP) attachment style is when a person has high love …

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How to get rid of a fetish: 5 Methods

leather and chain fetish

The word ‘fetish’ comes from the Portuguese feitico, meaning ‘spell’, which in turn comes from the Latin facticius, meaning ‘artificial’ or ‘made up’. Someone with a fetish has sexual interests so deviant that they seem artificial or made up. Fetishism is indulging in a fetish, and a fetishist is a person having a fetish. Fetishism …

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How to be more mature: 25 Effective ways

Have you ever been told any of the following? “Don’t be such a child.”“You’re such a baby.”“What are you, 8?”“Please grow up!” If you’ve been on the receiving end of these phrases often, chances are, you’ve been displaying immature behaviors. No adult likes to be seen as immature. In this article, we’ll break down the …

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How to break a trauma bond

break trauma bond

Trauma happens when we find ourselves in a threatening situation. The threat could be to our survival or reproductive success. Events that cause trauma include accidents, illnesses, natural disasters, break-ups, losing a loved one, abuse, and so on. A trauma bond is a bond that develops between an abuser and the abused. The victim forms …

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How to work on yourself mentally

working on yourself mentally

People who’ve worked on themselves mentally are just different. Their actions and words betray the work they’ve put in themselves. You always get that feeling of ‘this person knows who they are and what they’re talking about’ right away. It’s almost as if you can smell their confidence. They’re smart, good conversationalists, goal-driven, and purposeful. …

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How to heal from childhood trauma

healing childhood trauma

A traumatic experience is an experience that puts a person in danger. We respond to trauma with stress. Prolonged traumatic stress can have significant negative psychological and physiological effects on a person. Trauma may be caused by a single event, such as the loss of a loved one, or by continuous stress over time, such …

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Healing abandonment issues (8 Effective ways)

healing abandonment issues

People with abandonment issues fear being abandoned by their loved ones. Being the social species that we are, all of us dislike being abandoned by others, especially by our relatives and in-groups. While some level of this fear is normal, a person with abandonment issues lives in this fear constantly. Accepting and rejecting someone lies …

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How to stop being salty

how to stop being salty

Being salty means being bitter towards something or someone. When others make you salty, they ‘leave a bad taste in your mouth’. Of course, they don’t physically put something bitter in your mouth. But it certainly feels that way. Human experiences are fascinating, as always. It’s natural to feel bitter towards someone when they intentionally …

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How to stop being shallow

how to stop being shallow

There seem to be two types of people in the world- shallow and deep. You probably have some idea of who deep people are. Their thoughts, feelings, and words have depth. They have the ability to see beyond the surface. Shallow people are the complete opposite. They lack depth in their thoughts, words, feelings, and …

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