You tell someone they hurt you, and they get mad

getting mad could be perception

In a healthy and ideal relationship, when you tell someone they hurt you, they own their mistake and apologize. Or they communicate openly and honestly to clear misunderstandings and reach common ground. But why do some people get mad when you tell them they hurt you? There can be many reasons behind this behavior: Your …

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What does ‘love you’ mean? (vs. ‘I love you’)

love you text

Ever gotten a “love you” from your partner that left you wondering what it meant? What’s the difference between saying “I love you” and “love you”? ‘Love you’ and ‘I love you’ have the same literal meaning. The former is a shortened version of the latter. Both are used to express affection. However, omitting the …

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Why you’re annoyed when someone talks too much

talking too much

Annoyance is a negative emotion that tells us we should avoid a particular situation, activity, or person. Annoyance is a weak signal of pain that can turn into full-blown anger if the thing annoying us doesn’t stop or go away. Avoiding people, things, and activities that annoy us brings relief, fulfilling the purpose of annoyance. …

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Failing a polygraph when telling the truth

polygraph

A polygraph or a lie detector test is a device that supposedly detects lies. ‘Poly’ means ‘many’, and ‘graph’ means ‘to write or record’. The device has many sensors that record a person’s physiological responses, such as: A marked increase in the above measures indicates sympathetic nervous system arousal, a more technical term for stress …

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Why does life suck so much?

life sucks

What goes on in the mind of a person who says their life sucks?Does their life really suck, or are they being negative? There’s a lot to clarify in this article. Let’s begin. Let’s start with the basics. Like other organisms, humans have the core biological needs of survival and reproduction. Stated differently, humans want …

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6 Signs of being addicted to a person

addicted woman

Addiction can be defined as experiencing a loss of control when doing an activity leading to repetitive engagement in that activity. When you’re addicted to something, you over-invest your resources (time and energy) into it because you can’t help it. We all know that people tend to get addicted to drugs, alcohol, food, shopping, gambling, …

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Psychology of blocking and unblocking

confused blocking and unblocking

Humans are social species. Among the most profound human needs are the need to belong and feel included. Blocking someone on your phone is a modern form of social exclusion. It’s a way of communicating to the blocked person (blockee): “I don’t want you in my life. I don’t want anything to do with you.” …

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‘Why don’t I feel like myself?’: 5 Reasons

woman not feeling like herself

I know exactly what it feels like to ‘not feel like yourself’. I’ve been in such situations so many times. You feel out of alignment. You feel something’s off. You can’t quite put a finger on what’s off. You say things like: “I don’t feel like myself lately.”“I don’t feel like myself anymore.” What’s going …

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‘Why do I take things personally?’

taking things personally at work

We don’t take things personally. It just happens. I mean, we have little conscious control over it when it happens. Like many other thoughts and emotions, we can only deal with this psychological phenomenon post hoc. We can only manage it after it has happened. Why does it happen, though? We take things personally because …

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‘Why do I feel death is near?’ (6 Reasons)

near-death screaming

If you’ve ever experienced that sudden feeling that you’re going to die, you know how powerful that feeling is. It hits you like a brick and induces a sense of panic. Moments ago, you were going about your usual business. Suddenly, you’re thinking about your death and what will happen after you die. In this …

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