Hanan Parvez
The famous psychologist Erik Erikson came up with the stages of psychosocial development. The gist of his theory is that as we progress through life, from the day we’re born to the day we die, we go through some developmental stages. There’s a challenge to overcome in each of these stages, a conflict to resolve. …
Projecting onto someone means projecting your own traits onto someone. People tend to project their negative traits onto others so they don’t have to accept responsibility for them. It’s an ego defense and blame-shifting mechanism that can be conscious or unconscious. Projection and trauma Conscious projection is a form of manipulation. You know you’re hiding …
Projection in psychology means projecting your own mental states and traits onto others- traits that they don’t possess. Just as a movie projector projects moving images from a reel onto a screen, people project what’s going in their minds (reel) onto others (screen). The screen itself is blank. Projection is of two types: A) Positive …
Why do we stop caring? The answer to that question lies in the understanding of why we care. When we care about something, we give our attention, energy, time, and interest to it. Why? To get something in return. After all, attention, energy, time, and interest are all precious resources. We don’t want to squander …
When you enter a new relationship, it’s natural to desire to be close to your partner. You’re in the ‘getting to know each other’ phase. The closer you are to each other, the better you get to know each other. Eventually, when both partners are satisfied with each other, things settle down a bit. You …
Relationships are complicated. If you think quantum mechanics is complex, wait till you get into a relationship. When two minds collide and enter into a relationship, all sorts of chain reactions get triggered. It’s not just two minds colliding; it’s a collision of intentions, perceptions, misperceptions, assumptions, interpretations, misinterpretations, and behaviors. A mishmash of these …
Paradoxical as it may seem, humans are wired to be both selfish and selfless. As is evident in the world around us, selfishness usually wins when it comes head-to-head with selflessness. This shows that humans have a stronger drive to be selfish than cooperative. Humans will often only help others if, by doing that, they …
Running away from someone or something is a common dream theme. Dreams about running and hiding from someone are part of a range of such ‘chase dreams’ that people see. Such dreams are usually an indication that a person is running away from a threat. Why are these chase dreams common? When we’re stressed, our …
Commitment means sticking to something for a long time. When we talk about commitment, we usually talk about it in the context of romantic relationships. But the term also applies to other life areas such as work, interests, and hobbies. A person who has commitment issues has trouble dedicating themselves to one thing for a …
A person suffering from Entitled Dependence Syndrome depends on others in an exaggerated way. The key phrase here is ‘exaggerated’ because humans, being social species, are by nature dependent on other humans. However, when this dependency crosses a certain threshold, it turns into entitled dependence. Humans tend to form reciprocal relationships with others, meaning their …