Most people don’t give much thought to their actions and decisions and then wonder why they ended up where they did. Choosing a long-term partner is a high-stakes decision that should be given a lot of thought. Yet, people prefer to go purely by their heart in matters of the heart.
Of course, feelings are important and should never be ignored or suppressed. But rationality is just as critical, if not more. When you make high-stakes decisions using your head and heart, you’re likely to obtain the outcomes you want.
What is relationship readiness?
Relationship readiness is how ready you are for a long-term, committed relationship. Just because you want something doesn’t mean you’re prepared for it. Do you have to be perfectly ready before you commit to a relationship? No. Do you have to be sufficiently ready? Yes.
Your romantic relationship has such a significant impact on your life that it’s worth it to assess how prepared you are to enter one. You have to be crystal clear about what you want in a partner. Ignoring just one small thing can cost you dearly later on. This is not a decision to be taken lightly or on a whim.
Importance
How ready you are to commit to a relationship predicts how stable your relationship will be.1Agnew, C. R., Hadden, B. W., & Tan, K. (2019). It’s about time: Readiness, commitment, and stability in close relationships. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 10(8), 1046-1055. Instead of assessing themselves for relationship readiness, many people hope that things will turn out fine. Hope is not a strategy. If you don’t leave your career or health outcomes to chance, why do that to your relationship?
With self-awareness and clarity of values, you maximize the likelihood of getting the relational outcomes you want. Without these, you risk the future breakdown of your relationship.2Le, B., Dove, N. L., Agnew, C. R., Korn, M. S., & Mutso, A. A. (2010). Predicting nonmarital romantic relationship dissolution: A meta‐analytic synthesis. Personal Relationships, 17(3), 377-390.
About this test
This quiz consists of 20 items on a 2-point Yes/No scale. Answer each item based on how your life is currently. Note that your ego might come into play when answering some of the questions. You might answer to look good to yourself instead of answering honestly. To counter that, ask a person close to you who knows you very well to take this test on your behalf.
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